Women in Financial Services
Nikki Hinksman - Be Kind
Katie.Dix / 18 Feb 2020
Be kind
Making changes in our lives can be really difficult. There is a huge amount of internal wiring that draws us back to what we already know, so venturing into something new requires persistence and focus. But do you help yourself or do you make it more difficult?
Often the internal chatter we have can erode our motivation. I’m currently working with a client to help her build her confidence to speak out at board meetings. In this week’s coaching session, I asked her to write down what she could remember saying to herself during and after the latest board meeting. She was shocked to see the viciousness of her internal chatter. This is often the case.
When we have an opportunity to do something and don’t match up to our idea of how it should have been, we berate and chastise ourselves.
Would you speak to your best friend in this way? Of course not! You’d be kind to your friend. You’d remind them that’s tough to make changes and that they have had some successes already. You’d encourage them to keep going and put this moment into perspective.
So, do you think you could treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer your friend? Give it a go and see how much it helps you keep going.
April 2020 is Stress Awareness Month. Nikki is working in partnership with E2W to lead a discussion around Combatting Stress at Work. Please register for your space here.
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